Catch ya on the flip side

Posted by on Jan 15, 2012 in Features | 48 comments

If you follow my Twitter, you will know that I recently made the decision to shut down You’ve Got Nail and You’ve Got Nail Shop.

I know I said the decision was one made with positivity and happiness but I owe it to you – my beautiful readers – to go into a little more detail about my decision.

When deciding to shut things down, there were a number of factors that influenced my decision.

As you know, I started a new role in November.  This job is completely different to my old role in that it’s a more senior position (I’m now a Director within a large government department), with more responsibility and a larger team to manage.  In terms of time, I simply have none.  I get to work at 9am and work through to 6.30pm each day with nary a second to check on YGN.

And I love it.  For the first time in a long time, I love my job.  As in, I wake up every morning knowing I will have no time to myself at all but that it’s all ok because the work I’m doing I believe in.  It’s a beautiful thing.

Secondly, my health has played a role in this decision.  I told you guys I was sick in December and was hospitalised.  What I didn’t tell you guys was that I was 4-5 months pregnant and miscarried.  Worst part was… I had no idea I was pregnant.  Now, I’m not one of those silly ladies who is oblivious to the signs.  I’ve been pregnant twice before.  I KNOW what pregnancy looks and feels like.  This time, there were no signs.  So to suddenly miscarry in a hotel room – supremely traumatic and I’m still coming to terms with it.

But I do wonder, how crazy has my life become when I don’t even notice I’m pregnant.  Is that a sign that I might have taken on too much?  Perhaps.

Finally, I always said I blogged for love.  And I don’t love it enough anymore to invest the time.  It’s not YGN, it’s me.  I’ve changed.  My priorities have changed.  The way I live my life has changed.  And I’m not going to pretend and/or keep the blog running because of advertising / contra / prestige.  I’m sticking to my principles: I blog for love and if I don’t love it anymore, I won’t do it.

Having said that, YGN holds a special place in my heart.  I started it as an outlet to be creative.  And the ride has been an absolute ball.  I’ve enjoyed every second of it.

To my readers, thank you for all your support over the last two and a bit years.  I love you all and I mean that sincerely.

I will keep the site up and and running and will continue to pay the hosting to keep it that way.  So it will always be here, just not updated.  If you need to contact me, the email address is editor@youvegotnail.com

I’m thinking about another blog but not for a while. A break is what’s needed.  And, when I come back, it will probably be something entirely different.  I honestly can’t predict what the future holds right now.

I’ll also be starting up a new Twitter ( https://twitter.com/#!/EastMalvernMass ), so if you want to follow me on there, you’re most welcome.  It’s nonsensical of course, but what else would you expect from me, right? I’m currently investigating the important issue of whether Anna Paquin and the leader singer from KC and the Sunshine Band were separated at birth.  I think they were.

On that note, I’m signing out.  Thanks everyone!

  • nihrida

    Thanks for all your time! I wish you all the best!

  • Aj Dufresne

    losing a baby is very scary.. ive been pregnant 8 times and only have 2 babies.. but 6 angel babies:) taking time for you is whats right.. ive enjoyed your blog for a long time and cant wait to see what the future brings you .. cant wait for a update:) best of luck :) <3ThatsSoFresh AJ

  • http://twitter.com/KimberlyisHere Kimberly

    ((GREAT BIG HUGS)) Dear Jacie, I’m sorry for the loss you had and can’t even imagine how that made you feel.

    I have enjoyed reading your blog and getting to know you. I so hope you come to Twitter and hang out as I would sorely miss you otherwise.

    All the best to you with your new journey. How awesome is it to have a job that thrills! Not to mention, I hope you got a big, fat salary. ;P

  • Anonymous

    The salary is very big and very fat and comfortable – life is good. :-)

  • Anonymous

    So true, most terrifying thing.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks beautiful.

  • Jess @ Miss J. Shopaholic

    Oh Jacie, I cannot begin to imagine what you went through but you are an amazing person and I have no doubt that you’ll pull through this stronger and more rockstar than ever. Remember we’ll always love you, YGN or not. Let’s catch up soon ok – I miss your hugs! Xx

  • Lucy

    I am gutted about your miscarriage.  How awful for that to happen to you.  Don’t blame yourself for thinking you missed the signs of pregnancy because you were so busy.  Weird medical things happen all the time.  I’m going to miss the hell out of you and your blog.  You & your family are more important than anything.  I can understand losing your love for something.  I’ve been tired of blogs for awhile.  I cut a lot of them out.  I felt really bad but they get boring after awhile.  The best ones are ones like yours that really have more than just polish.  It has you in it strongly.  I think a blog is like having a full time job.  I’ll also miss your humor, you always make me laugh.  You also are a good writer.  It’s wonderful that you’ve found a great job that you love.  Crap, I’m going to miss you.  Love you too.

  • http://twitter.com/lilpil99 Lilpil

    OMG – I’m so sorry to hear about what happened in December. I can’t imagine what was going going through your head  when you were in that hospital in those dark moments.

    I will miss you so much Jacie but I am glad you are taking the time to look after yourself and of course I have no doubt, we will still be catching up with each other again soon.

  • http://www.nightlynails.com/ Nicole

    Jacie, it’s been absolutely beautiful getting to know you and I have totally enjoyed watching you blog – I’m definitely going to be following the new twitter! You’re one of the funniest and sweetest ladies I know. That said, I am so so sorry for your loss and can only imagine how that must have been for you, so I’m sending you gigantic bear hugs and a big fat smooch.
    I am sure, knowing you, that you are doing the absolute best thing possible but I still wish you all the luck and love in the world. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=642818303 Mairyn Blainey

    All the best for the future, Jacie.

    I’ve been a YGN reader for the past year, and your blog is actually the first nail and beauty blog I started following. What I loved most was the enthusiasm, personality and humour infused into your blogging which made it feel more like a friend recommending the latest ‘awesome sauce’ product as opposed to being a beauty blog written by a person I’ve never met.
    I’m sorry for the loss you experienced but I wish you luck for the future! I’m now contemplating joining Twitter so I can follow you, as I’ve been too lazy to join up until now. 

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Mairyn, I’ve loved having you comment. You’re honest AND supportive all at the same time.

  • Anonymous

    You better follow my new Twitter. Or else!

  • Anonymous

    We’re MBBE. That friendship lasts forever. :-)

  • Anonymous

    I know your email, Lucy. We’ll keep in contact.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Jess. The feeling is SO SO SO mutual.

  • Anonymous

    Oh look out US. You think Obama is big – wait til the Jacie roadshow arrives!

  • Anonymous

    I’m happy lovely and that’s the main thing. I go forward with no regrets.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Alyssa. I’ve gone through days where I can’t stop crying and others, I’m more philosophical. It’s a journey but I’m making the right decisions.

  • Anonymous

    Thank you – what a beautiful comment. :-)

  • Anonymous

    Thanks gorgeous. :-)

  • Anonymous

    I’m glad you’ll still follow the stupid talk.

  • Anonymous

    I don’t have sisters so you guys mean all the world to me. That will never change, no matter what I do or where I go. You girls all have that bossy big sister in me.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks lovely!

  • Anonymous

    Hahahah I’m not scared of you. Ok, maybe a little.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks darling, what a nice thing to say!

  • Anonymous

    Ah yes, my tentacles. Thanks love!

  • Anonymous

    That was the worst part – not knowing what was happening and being by myself. But I’m on the way to recovery now.

  • Anonymous

    And you can always email me anytime. I’m not going anywhere. :-)

  • Anonymous

    gluten free cheetos = what’s the damn point

    Love you Karyn. :-)

  • Anonymous

    Rockstar forever. In fact, it’s the rockstar that has kept me going in the last six weeks….

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Jadels. :-)

  • http://depictthis.blogspot.com Bonita Vear

    ~ * ♥ * ~

    I am very sorry for your loss Jaci, my best, biggest hugs are sent your way.  I hope that as you move forwards, your heart will be filled to the brim with happiness.  

    I’ll miss you Jaci, you have a huge role in the blogging community, and it’s sad to see you go.  You are one of the few blogs that I ALWAYS read no matter what, so I am glad you are not going away completely.  *Waves Hello from Twitter!

    xox,
    bonita of Depict This!
    ~ * ♥ * ~

  • MsCritique.com

    I’m really sorry to hear you’ve had a really rough time lately. I’ve loved every second on YGN, especially your tutorials. You’ve been great for an early morning laugh over breakfast and I will miss that! Hope to see you soon for our long-overdue catch up over galub jamuns. Big love. X

  • CatnDan

    I have loved reading your blog and appreciate that you have explained why. Also very sorry for your loss.
    Much luck sent to you for what you do in the future, I know you’ll be great at it.
    We will all miss you.

  • anon

    I’ve been a lurker for quite a while, and through your blog I’ve discovered others, and I’ve also discovered nail polish I would otherwise have passed over. I’ve loved coming here and reading your posts, and to see that you’re shutting this down, not gonna lie, makes me sad.

    That said, you have your reasons. Being a mother of two isn’t easy {or at least, I would assume so}, not to mention all of the craziness of life. I’m sorry to hear about what happened to you, and I hope that life gives you the rewards you deserve for the hardships it has put you through. :) Have a good life, and continue to stay the rockstar you are. ♥

  • http://indigo-kir-royale.blogspot.com/ IndigoKirRoyale

    Hi Jacie.

    So sad to hear the end of YGN. I loved reading this blog & relieved to know you will keep it up and running for us (very kind of you).  It’s a very useful resource indeed!   You have such a great sense of humour and I was really happy I met you at the ABBW coz you were even more awesome in person.  You looked after everyone and helped ensure everything was on the dot perfect.  I’m sure this will translate well in your new job.  I’m sure you will manage people well simply because you treat them well!  I also want to pass on my deepest sympathy for your recent loss. :-(  I’ll be thinking of you during this extremely difficult time. Wish you all the very best in the future Jacie.  Keep on lovin’ what you do!xo

  • Nixxy

    Oh, Jacie I’m so sorry to see you go but so happy the reason means life is good. Shanks for the memories and have a Flan-tastic time with your new job :) I’ve been meaning to friend you on Facebook so I’ll do it now so we can stay in touch xxx

  • Sarah kretchmer

    Hey Jacie,

    Well, I am going to be the first person to say that I am glad YGN is finishing. I can’t tell you how sick I have been of popping on for a quick read then immediately having to rush out and buy a new nail polish. You have cost me way to much money, you have doubled the size of my nail polish collection (and it was already way to large to begin with) and to be perfectly honest you have wasted way too much of my time with my constant need to pop in and see what new stuff might be up on YGN!!

    On a more serious note, I completely understand your reasons. I started my blog when there was something missing in my life – I was a new mum, and no longer had an intellectual outlet. My blog became that outlet. But as my son has gotten older, he needs me more, plus life in general has gotten busier and I have found my blog has really taken a back seat. I guess there is no longer the hole in my life that needs filling.

    I am so pleased you are in a good place in your life, in regards to your awesome new job, but am heart broken for you about what you went through all on your own. A miscarriage is heart wrenching as it is, but to have to go through it without your number one support person by your side is utterly terrifying.

    Love Sarah

    ps since you are no longer a blogger, can i please have your nail polish collection?

     

  • Chloeblue5005

    Hey Jacie. Made me a bit teary reading this one as it must have been so scary and distressing. I have so enjoyed your blog (I’m not great at commenting) and the selfless way you shared your time and energy posting so regularly. I totally support and respect your decision to pull up stumps and I hope that time helps to heal the loss you and your family have had recently.

    It sounds like great news on the job front – it makes such a difference when you have something you feel so passionate about. And I’m selfishly glad that I’ll still get to read your turn of phrase on twitter as you often make me smile. And I want to know the second you start blogging again. Jac x

  • Anonymous

    Awww thanks Jac. Don’t worry, my propensity to talk nonsense is intact. :-)

  • Anonymous

    No you can’t have my collection! It’s MINE MINE MINE!

  • Anonymous

    We are now official facebook friends. Next thing you know, we’ll be making out. That’s what facebook friends do right?

  • Anonymous

    Thanks beautiful. It was so nice to meet you (and your beautiful, patient husband) at ABBW. :-)

  • Anonymous

    Thanks lovely – that’s very nice of you to say.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks beautiful. :-)

  • Anonymous

    Mmmm gulab jamuns.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks lovely. :-)